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SRISAILAM TEMPLE

History Of Srisailam Temple

Sri Bhramarambha Mallikarujuna Swamy or Srisailam Temple is a noted Hindu temple dedicated to deities Shiva and Parvati, located near the Nallamala forest range in Kurnool District, Andhra Pradesh.  In Srisailam Temple, Mallikarujuna Swamy (Lord Sri Mallikarjuna Swamy is also known as Chenchu Mallayya) is worshipped as “SHIVA” and Sri Bhramarambha (Goddess Sri Bhramaramba Devi) as “PARVATHI DEVI.

Srisailam Temple is recognized as a Saiva Kshetram, is one of the twelve Jyotirlingas1 (devotional representation of Shiva) and one of the eighteen Maha Shakti2 (ultimate power inherent in all Creation).

The Srisailam Mallikarjuna Temple is built in the South Indian style of architecture with numerous shrines and houses four towners known as Gopurams.  The temple houses many halls and magnificent sculpture, the most notable is Mukha Mandapa.

Srisailam Temple has a group of Five Temples Vriddha Mallikarjuna, Sahasra Lingeswara, Arthanariswara, Veerabhadra, and Uma Maheswara which is also known as “Pandava Prathista Temples”.

The famous chant of “Hara Hara Mahadeva Shambo Shankara” is recognized as the devotees “Voices” of Srisailam Temple. Devotees believe a visit to the temple will fulfull their genuine wishes.

DETAILS OF REGULAR PUJA’S, ABHISHEKAMS & SEVAS IN SRISAILAM TEMPLE

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Vishesha Abhishekam to Sri Subrahmanyam Swamy (Kumara Swamy) in Srisailam Temple

In Srisailam Temple, special pooja and vishesha Abhishekam3 are performed as a temple service (Sarkari Seva) for Sri Subrahmanyam Swamy (Kumara Swamy) every Tuesday and on the day of Krithika Nakshatra and Shashti Tithi.

Worshiping Kumara Swamy is not only for the welfare of the world, but also for individuals to be successful in job, business, and marriage affairs Subramanya Swamy’s grace eliminates any hostilities, enemies, gripes, planetary issues, etc. It is believed that people who worship him for the offspring may receive parenting.

Before performing Abhishekam to Sri Subramanyam Swamy, priests chant mantras for the welfare and peace of the country, people to blessed with good health and wealth, to get enough rains on time, and the crops should grow well.

As customary in Hindu tradition, Mahaganapathi Pooja is performed first to seek blessings from Ganapathi for making the rest of the program to go smooth.  

The Mahaganapathi Pooja is followed by Abhishekam to Sri Subramanyam Swamy where priests will recite hymns on Subramanya Swamy.

Subramanyam Swamy Abhishekam is performed with Panchamrita.  Panchamrita is a mix of milk, yoghurt, honey, ghee, coconut water and various fruit juices. 

Anointing Lord with various fruit juices will have a great effect and good results.

Vishesha Poojalu to Gramadevatha Sri Ankalamma Ammavaru in Srisailam Temple

In Srisailam Temple, every Friday, Vishesha Pooja & Abhishekam will be performed as a temple service (Sarkari Seva) for Gramadevatha Sri Ankalamma Ammavaru. 

The Seva starts early in the morning at 6:30 am with anointing, poojas, vishesha abhishekam, floral decorations, and saffron archanalu to Sri Ankalamma Ammavaru.

In Devi Bhagavatam4 it is said that, village God are the arts of natural forces. In Arsavajnmayam, it is said that nature is an embodiment of Adhiparasakthi. 

The worship of the village Goddess is a testament to the noble attitude of Hindu culture which believes that the divine power is available to everyone rather than confined to certain sections of society.

Sri Ankalamma Ammavaru has four arms – each of which has a sword, drum wrapped with serpent, a bow, and a trident.  The crown-clad Goddess is adorned with ornate jewelry and shining garments. 

Mahaganapati pooja will be performed before the pooja starts for Sri Ankalamma Ammavaru.  Then the priests chant the hymns and mantras for the welfare of the world. 

After this, the Panchamrutabhishekam, Haridrodakam, Kunkumodakam, Gandhodakam and Puspodakam puja are performed.

Once the pooja is complete, devotees are offered holy water as Tirtham5 and food offered to Gods as Prasadam6.

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Pradhoshakala Abhishekam to Srisailam Temple Ruler Sri Bayalu Veerabhadra Swamy

In the Lord Srisailam Temple, every Tuesday and new moon day, Pradhoshakala Abhishekam and Archana will be performed to Sri Bayalu Veerabhadra Swamy. 

Sri Bayalu Veerabhadra Swamy is the head of the Shivabhakta Ganalu(Shivites) and is considered kshetrapalaka7 of Srisailam. 

He is one of the 25 Leelas of Lord Parameswara.  As the ruler of the Srisailam Temple field, he appears at temple outdoors with no roof, and thus is called as “Bayalu Veerabhadra Swamy“.

The crown-clad Swamy appears with ten hands – each with a unique arm to protect the devotees and people of Srisailam. Bhadrakali is on his right, and Dakshudu on his left. 

Devotees seeking Swami’s blessing will be healed of diseases and get healthy, and resolve complex problems.

Veerabhadra Swamy pooja is considered significant in the Agama8 tradition. By worshiping the Swamy, the devotees can resolve planetary errors and disturbances,  become fearless, couples with no kids can get blessed with kids, lead a healthy life, and resolve monetary issues.

The Agama Sastras state that the Veerabhadra Puja on Tuesdays, Sundays and new moon days produces many results. During the rituals, the Lord’s anointing is performed with panchamrutham, bilvodakam, kunkumodakam, haridrodakam, bhasmodhakam, gandodakam, pushpodakam and Abhishekam is performed with fresh water. 

Special flower arrangement is made for the Lord.

Once the pooja is complete, devotees are offered holy water as Theertham5 and food offered to Gods as Prasadam6.

Vishesha Pooja to Sri Dattatreya Swamy

For the well-being of devotees’ and welfare of the world, special rituals for

Lord Sri Dattatreya Swamy are performed at Srisailam Temple.  Lord Dattatreya is an incarnation of Brahma, Vishnu, and Maheshvara, collectively known as Trimurthi. 

Lord Dattatreya’s temple is under Triphala Tree within Srisailam temple premises.  The Triphala Tree, within Srisailam Temple premises, is also known as Dattatreya Tree as Lord Dattatreya had performed penance under the tree. 

Triphala Tree is three trees wound around each other to form one tree.  The three trees are co-existence of Ficus species –Aswatha(Raavi), Oudumbara(Medi), and Plaksha (Juvvi). 

The pooja for Lord Dattatreya is held every Thursday as a temple service (Sarkar Seva).

As is customary, the Mahaganapati Puja is performed first before the ritual is begins followed by Panchamruta Abhishekam and Vishnu Poojas to Dattatreya Swamy.

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A special pooja for Nandeeswara Swamy
(Shanaagala Basavanna Swamy)
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For the well-being of devotees’ and welfare of the world, Srisailam Temple performs Vishesha Archana Pooja to Nandeeswara Swamy (Shanavagal Basavanna Swamy) who is under the triphala tree in the temple premises. 

This Pooja is performed every Tuesday and on Trayodashi day as a temple service (Sarkari Seva). These special rituals are held during the Pradoshakalam – during at dusk.

Before performing Abhishekam to Sri Subramanya Swamy, priests chant and pray for welfare and peace of country, good health & wealth, to get seasonal rains, good yield in agriculture and dairy farming etc.  

As is customary, Mahaganapathi Pooja is performed first followed by Haridrodakam Abhishekam with Panchamrutam and holy bath from Mallika Gundam water to Nandeeswara Swamy. 

This Vishesha Abhishekam will perform to Nandeeswara Swamy by chanting of Vedanta mantras like Purushasooktham, Vrushabhasooktham. 

The Abhishekam is followed by offering new garments and flower alankara to Nandeeswara Swamy. Saked peanuts are offered to Nandeeswara Swamy as prasadam.

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The special anointing to
Sri Sakshi Ganapathi Swamy

The Sakshiganapathi Swamy Temple is one of the most prominent & unique temples of the Srisailam field shrines.  

In the temple, Sri Sakshi Ganapathi Swamy is carved in beautiful black stone sclupture, appears to be holding a pen in one hand and a book in the other – recording the names of the devotees.

The Srisailam Temple carries a special anointing to Sri Sakshi Ganapathi Swamy at Sakshi Ganapathi Swamy Temple for the welfare of the world. 

This special anointing and poojas are performed as Temple Seva (Sarkari Seva) every Wednesday, Sankatahara Chaviti day, and full moon day.

Sri Sakshi Ganapath Swamy is anointed with Panchamrita, and holy bath is given holy water. The anointment is followed by special floral and other puja programs to Swamy. 

The Ganapathi Homam is also performed as a part of this seva.

In Vaidic traditions, Ganapathi Abhishekam plays an important role of Ganapathi Puja.  Devotees who perform or are part of Abhishekam get their wishes fulfilled, blessed with health and wealth.  

Students also benefit through increased memory helps which helps with their academics. 

The Sakshi Ganapathi Swamy Temple is one of the most prominent and unique temples in Srisailam.  Lord is carved in beautiful black stone sculpture – holding a pen in one hand and a book in another.

A special pooja for Veerabhadra Swamy
(Jwala Veerabhadra Swamy)

For the well-being of devotees’ and welfare of the world, special pooja to Veerabhadra Swamy is performed in Srisailam temple

Veerabhadraswamy temple is in the north side of Mallikarjuna Swamy Temple, adjacent to Mallika Gundam in Srisailam Temple premises.  Veerabhadraswamy has a distinctive appearance with ten hands.

Based on ancient architectecture, Lord Veerabhadraswamy is also known as Amaraveera Bhadra Murthy.  Dakshaprajapathi appears next to the Swamy.

Every Wednesday, Srisailam temple authorities perform special abhishekam to Veerabhadraswamy.  

Devotees who perform the pooja or are part of the pooja get their wishes fulfilled, and helps with welfare and peace in the world. 

After the pooja, Veerabhadraswamy is anointed with Panchamrutham.  

The Panchamrutham is made with 5 different varieties of fuirts, which is followed by gandodakam, bhasmodhakam, pushpodakam, bilvodakam, haridrodakam, and finally abhishekam with fresh water from Mallika Gunda is performed.  

Following the abhishekam, Veerabhadraswamy is given a floral abhishekam. 

Veerabhadraswamy is given Vishesha Harathi followed by distribution of theerdham and prasadam to devotees.

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Pallaki Seva for Sri Bhramaramba Devi Ammavaru
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For the well-being of devotees’ and welfare of the world, Pallaki (palanquin) Seva is celebrated for Sri Bhramaramba Devi in Srisailam Temple. 

The Pallaki Seva is held every Sunday, full moon day, and on auspicious day of moola nakshatram. During the Seva, priests chant mantras to seek Goddess blessing. 

As is customary in Hindu tradition, Mahaganapati pooja is performed to ensure that the event goes smoothly.  Afterwards, “Shodashopachaara” poojas performed to Sri Swami Ammavaru.

After the pooja, Sri Swami Ammavaru is placed in a richly decorated floral palanquin and taken around the temple premises in a procession.  The procession allows devotees to seek blessings from the Goddess.  The temple allows devotees to participate in palanquin procession. 

Uyala Seva (Cradle Seva) for Sri Bhramaramba Devi Ammavaru
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For the well-being of devotees’ and welfare of the world, Uyala (Cradle) Seva is celebrated for Sri Bhramaramba Devi in Srisailam Temple. 

The Uyala Seva is held every Friday, full moon day, and on auspicious day of moola nakshatram.  As part of the Seva, priests chant mantras to seek blessings of the Goddess.

As is customary in Hindu tradition, Mahaganapati pooja is performed to ensure that the event goes smoothly.  Mahaganapathi pooja is followed by rich floral decoration of Uyala and placement of Sri Bhramaramba Devi Ammavaru in the Uyala.  “Shodashopachaara” poojas performed to Sri Bhramaramba Devi Ammavaru.

After Shodashopachaara poojas, Astotharam, Trishati, Khadgamala, Sahasra Namapuja will performe to Ammavaru and Sahasranama Archana performed to Swamy vaaru, then fanally Cradle Seva will be performed.

The cradle service is open to all devotees. The temple also provides an opportunity for the Muttaiduvulu9 to be part of Sri Swamy Ammavari Uyala ceremony.

Saraswathi Devi Yagam in SrisailamTemple
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As part of Srisailam Temple’s dharma campaign, Saraswathi Devi Yagam is performed at the Akkamahadevi Mandapam in temple premises. 

Saraswathi is the Hindu Goddess of knowledge, music, art, wisdom, and learning.  School and college students can participate in the Yagam at no cost/free. 

As is customary in Hindu tradition, Mahaganapati pooja is performed to ensure that the event goes smoothly.  Mahaganapathi pooja is followed by vishesha pooja for Sree Swami Ammavaru utsava-murti (processional deity). 

After Mahaganapathi pooja, “Shodashopachaara” poojas are performed to Saraswathi Devi which is followed by Yagam.  Educational supplies such as books, pens, are also included in the pooja. 

High school students who have ambition to excel in studies and pursue higher education will benefit tremendously by participating in Saraswathi Yagam and being in Srisailam temple premises.  In addition to academic school students, the Yagam is attended by Agama students (students who pursue Yogic education curriculum) in Srisailam temple

Temple conducts Saraswathi Yagam to educate devotees and to continue the age-old customs and traditions, specifically academic and yogic students, on Vaidik culture and traditions

“Giri Pradikshina” Program in Srisailam Temple
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Srisailam temple celebrates Giri Pradikshina on full moon day.  Walking around the Hill is called Giri Pradikshina.  Pradikshina means an act of walking around any holy place in a clockwise direction, with one’s right side facing the object of adoration. 

Giri Pradikshina activities are held to bring awareness to devotees about ancient rituals, customs and traditions and to spread spiritual awareness among the devotees. 

As part of the celebration, Lord Shiva and Parvati Devi’s utsava-murti (processional deity) is given maha-harathi followed by placing the utsava-murti in palanquin and offering special poojas to the Lord and Goddess allowing the Giri Pradikshina to start. 

The Giri Pradikshina starts from the grand entrance of the temple and goes through Gangadhara Mandapam, Bayalu Veerabhadra Swamy Temple, Siddhiramappa Pool (Kolanu), Psukarini area, and Nandi Madapam.

The Giri Pradikshina concludes when the procession reaches grand entrance of the temple.

It is considered that by being part of Giri Pradikshina, devotees wishes are fulfilled and their family is blessed with health and peace.  Also, it is believed that during Treta Yugam, Lord Rama had performed Giri Pradikshina at Srisailam.  Temple authorities arrange water shelters across the Pradikshina route to minimize any hardships to devotees that participate in the event.

After complettion of “Giri Pradikshina” program, prasadam will be distributed to the devotees.

“MRUTYUNJAYA JAPAM”and “MRUTYUNJAYA PASHUPATHA HOMAM”
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For the well-being of devotees’ and welfare of the world, Srisailam temple conducts Mrutyunjaya Japam and Mrutyunjaya Pashupatha Homam.  The homams and traditional pooja programs are held to bless the devotees with health and peace.   

As part of this program, special poojas are performed to Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati. Later, Japamu and Homam are initiated in Lord’s yagashala.

The human is preceded by priests saying Sankalpam (a formulaic utterance where priests share details of when and where in the Universe the ritual is being conducted and the purpose of ritual).

Regualar Nitya Kalaradhana (Nivedana) programmes in Srisailam Temple
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Srisailam Temple conducts “Nithyakalaradhana” (Nivedana) programmes.  Nitya Kalaradhana (Nivedana) programmes are held every day at Harihararaya Gopuram, at the temple’s Southend area. 

Part of Nitya Kalaradhana includes other programmes such as Harikatha, Burrakatha, Traditional Dance, Instrumental Music, and Bhakti Ranjani.

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The pooja activities are performed to Sri Swami Ammavaru to preserve and continue ancient classical arts.  Similarly, scripture recitation is performed.

As part of this, Vedic rituals and traditions are mentioned in the sermons. Local artists are given preference to participate in the Nitya Kalaradhana programme.

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SRISAILAM TEMPLE ONLINE BOOKING

Srisailam Temple Online Booking facility provided for Sevas, Pooja and Darshan, Accomodation, Saswatha Seva, Ehundi, Annadanam, Publications etc for which one can book through Srisailam Temple Online Booking  facility.

Devotees can visit Srisailam Temple Webiste (mentioned below) for Online Booking of Various Sevas like follows:

Ganapathi Homam, Chandi Homam, Rudra Homam, Mruthyumjaya Homam, Sri Subramanyeswara Swamy Kalyanam, Swami Amma Vari Kalyanam, Abhishekam at (Garbalayam),  Kunkumarchana at (Antharalayam).

Facilities avalaiable for Srisailam Temple Online Booking for Various Abhishekams and Subcription of Magazine “SRISAILAPRABHA. There is also having Srisailam Temple Online Booking for Publications such as Book, Audio CD, Video CD, DVD in a different languages. 

Also having Srisailam Temple Online Booking facility for Accomodation for which devotee can visit Srisailam Temple Official Website: www.srisailamonline.com and also website of  APTDC: https://tourism.ap.gov.in  for more details of Accomodation & Tour Packes.

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PLACES TO VISIT IN SRISAIAM TEMPLE

There are several famous places to visit in and near Srisailam Temple. 

The prominent palces to visit in Srisaialm Temple are Mallikarjuna Swamy Devalayam, Bramarambhika Devi Temple, Bheemuni Kolanu, Mallela Theertham, Saleswaram, Bhramaramba Cheruvu, Hatakeswaram, Phaladhara Panchadhara, Manohara Gundamu, Nagaprathimalu, Akkamahdevi Caves, Istakameshwari Temple, Bhairava Sela, Panchamathams, Nagalooty, Jwala Veerabhadra Swamy, Kadalivanam, Siddharamappa Kolanu, Hemareeddymallamma Mandiram, Hateshwaram etc.

Other Places to visit in Srisailam Temple where speical poojas, archanas, sevas, abhishekams are performed to Sri Subrahmanyam Swamy (Kumara Swamy), Sri Bramarambha Devi, Sri Sakshi Ganapathi Swamy, Gramadevatha Sri Ankalamma Ammavaru, Sri Bayalu Veerabhadra Swamy, Sri Dattatreya Swamy, Nandeeswara Swamy (Shanaagala Basavanna Swamy), Pallaki Seva for Sri Bhramaramba Devi Ammavaru, Uyala Seva (Cradle Seva) for Sri Bhramaramba Devi Ammavaru, Giri Pradikshina Program etc.

SRISAILAM ACCOMODATION BOOK FACILITY & APTDC

In Srisilam Temple Devastanam Visitors will be offered diffrent kinds of accomodation booking facility ranging from Normal rooms to A.C Suits in various choultries and guest houses on the hill.

Accomodation book facility in Srisailam Temple for the below Cottages:

1. VVIP Cottages near Shivaji Spoorthi Kendram

2. Ordinary Cottages near Shivaji Spoorthi Kendram

For Srisailam Temple Accomodation booking facilities Please visit Srisailam Temple Official Website: www.srisailamonline.com

A detailed Accomodation Tariff  is also avaialble in Srisailam Temple Official Website: www.srisailamonline.com for Srisailam Temple Accomodation Booking.

Please also visit other website of Andhra Pradesh Tourism Development Corporation (APTDC): https://tourism.ap.gov.in for Srisailam Temple Accomodation Booking & Various Tour Packages details.

SRISAILAM ABHISHEKAM TICKETS

For Srisailam Abhishekam Tickets, there is a facility of online booking facility for various Abhihekams

Abhishekam – Garbhalayam, Abhishekam – Single, Abhishekam – Vrudhamallikarjunaswamy,  Abhishekam – Alamkaramandapam etc. There will be different Abhishekam Ticket prices for respective Abhishekams in Srisailam Temple.

Devotees who book for Abhishekam Tickets need to follow Srisailam Temple Devastanam Terms & Conditions:

Devotees need  to bring Printed copi of the Srisailam Abhishekam Tickets which is essential to attend servcie along with ID Proof of the Ticket Booking holder. 

Only couple or single person will be allowed to perform Abhishekam on one Abhishekam Ticket. Children below 10 years of age are also permitted to follow their parents. Other kith and kin will not be allowed along with sevadors of Abhishekam Ticket holders.

For each Abhishekam Ticket in Srisailam, only one person of ois allowed for Suprabhatham Seva, Harathi Seva and for Seegra and Athiseegra Darshanams. Abhishekam Ticket holders /  Devotees can collect the abhishekam / puja articles inside temple.

Need to follow other Terms & Conditions as mentioned by the Srisailam Temple Devastanam.

For Srisailam Abhishekam Tickets to book online, Please visit Srisailam Temple Official Website: www.srisailamonline.com

SUPER SCRIPT DEFINITIONS

Jyotirlingas1

Jyotirlinga or Jyotirlingam, is a devotional representation of the Supreme God ShivaJyoti means ‘radiance’ and lingam the ‘Image or Sign’ of Shiva; Jyotir Lingam thus means the Radiant Sign of The Almighty Shiva. There are twelve traditional Jyotirlinga shrines in India.

 

Maha Shakti2

Shakthi” refers to the Goddess worshiped at each location, all being manifestations of Dakshayani (Sati), Parvati, or Durga.

Srisailam Sri Mallikarjuna Swamy Temple is one of the 18 Maha Shakti Peetha. The legend of Daksha Yaga and Sati’s self-immolation resulted in the emergence of Sri Parvati in the place of Sati Devi and making Shiva a householder. This mythology is the story behind the origin of Shakti Peethas. They are holy abodes of Adiparashakti formed due to the falling of Sati Devi’s corpse when Shiva carried it and wandered. It is believed that Sati Devi’s Upper lip has fallen here.

 

Abhishekam3

 Abhishekam is a Sanskrit word meaning “sprinkling” or “wetting”. It refers to the Hindu ritual of pouring holy water or other sacred substances on a statue of a deity while also chanting mantras. 

It is akin to puja, another Sanskrit word that means “worship.” The principle behind abhishekam is total surrender to and love of the deity. It is believed that by bathing the statue, or murti, the devotees cleanse and purify their own minds.

Bhagavatam4

In Hinduism a Bhagavata (a vrddhi formation from Bhagavanta, meaning “devotee of Bhagavanta”, the Lord, i.e. God), is a devotee, worshipper or follower of Bhagavanta namely God in his personal aspect. The form of worship is called bhakti which has the meaning of ‘adoration’. In Sanskrit language ‘Bhaga’ stands for desire, ‘antha’ stands for the end.

Hence Bhagavanta or Bhagavan means ‘the one beyond desire or rebirth’, whereas Bhagavata indicates a worshiper of this purified and persistent entity. Bhaga’vat is also thought to mean “one possessing welfare, fortune or majesty.

Bhagavata Sampradaaya is a very old vedic tradition that respects all the darshana shastras & siddantas. 

 

Theertham5

 Theertha (Theertha) literally refers to holy water offered to God first and then shared with devotees. In Hindu mythology, it is referred to as the physical holy water body associated with a temple or deity. ‘Teertha’ means ‘Holy’. It is the holy water given in a temple after all pujas. Typically, it is the water that was used to bathe the lord, give him/her a hand wash, feet wash, rinsing of the mouth, etc.

 

Prasadam6

PrasadamPrasad and Prasada, is a material substance of vegetarian food that is a religious offering in both Hinduism and Sikhism.

Prasadam is nothing but a token of blessing. This can be anything – from a flower to an eatable.  In most cases, eatables are more popularly addressed as prasadams. These eatables are called ‘prasadams’ only after they have been offered to the lord. In case of other prasadams like flower, sindhoor, etc, they are all the objects used by the Lord during pooja. So essentially, accepting prasadam is a way of revering all that has been enjoyed by the lord.

 

Kshetrapalakudu7

Kshetrapalakudu means protector or who looks after wellbeing of the Temple area. It is said that the guardian for Srisailam Temple (Kshetrapalakudu) is Sri Bayalu Veerabhadra Swamy.  

 

Agama8

Agama –  It is a collection of Sanskrit, Tamil, and Grantha scriptures that contains, mainly, methods of temple construction, idol creation, philosophical doctrines and meditative practices. The three main branches of Agama texts are ShaivaVaishnava, and Shakta.

 

Muttaiduvulu9

 Muttaiduvu – A married woman whose husband is alive.